Speaking Up for Civility

I recently wrote a guest editorial for the local paper in my hometown. Not just any editorial, but one with a political slant.

What was I thinking, right? Am I a glutton for punishment or trolling for a vitriolic social media debate? Well, no.. although I fully expect feedback and even some “not nice” feedback because that would actually (and sadly) prove my point.

Which is: People have becoming increasingly intolerant of others political views and behave incredibly badly as a result.

The article focuses on the divisiveness in politics, and while I wrote it from my perspective as a conservative woman voter, it is present along the entire political spectrum. It’s about being bullied, shamed and harassed for expressing political views or supporting certain candidates. It’s about the importance of treating others with civility instead of attacking. And it’s about being willing to listen, learn and perhaps compromise to make our country a better place for everyone.

So, yes, I am taking a chance, putting myself out there and standing up for civility because if I allow fear to stop me from trying to make a difference, I am not being the person I want to be.

I hope my message is taken as it was intended – as a means to raise awareness of how we treat each other and to pledge to do better for the sake of our countries future.

I for one am listening.

7 thoughts on “Speaking Up for Civility

  1. Thank you for the article. It described my feelings perfectly. I hope it makes people, especially women think. I’m not going to wager on it though.


  2. I just read your article and shared with my mom and sister. Thank you for speaking up. I can’t help but feel sorry for the woman who kept quiet to maintain relationships with liberal friends. I mean, if you can’t be yourself around your “friends,” then they really haven’t earned the title. Better to have fewer REAL friends.


  3. Peggy,

    Thank for your article in the News-Gazette on Tuesday November 24, 2020 on the “Fear of Speaking Up: the dilemma of the conservative woman.” I appreciate your courage to stand up for your conservative beliefs. It is a sad day in our country when a conservative Christian is attacked for standing up for Faith, Family, and Country. Keep up the good work.

    Thank you



  4. I read the article and the above responses. I’m a Republican, who does not support Trumpism. Suzanne Rogers “can’t help but feel sorry for the woman who kept quiet to maintain relationships with liberal friends.” It is the misuse of the term “liberal” with which she shows her disdain for someone who’s views are different than her own. And it has been misused by Republicans to sow divisiveness since Ronald Reagan. Paul J Telthorst says “It is a sad day in our country when a conservative Christian is attacked for standing up for Faith, Family, and Country.” And I see a President along with white evangelicals that have bartered women’s healthcare and the followings of Christ to satisfy their lust for money and power. And Janet hopes your article “makes people, especially women think. I’m not going to wager on it though.” Many of us followers of Christ have and do think about our misguided political and church leaders with their lust for power. I’ve observed bigotry, bullying, misogyny being used by Republican politicians as an acceptable form of behavior for many years. You call for civility towards conservative women when I have experienced that “lack” of civility from conservative women. Trumpism does not support followers of Christ nor civility. And Trumpism is now the Republican Party. How do you propose the party address that?


    1. All good questions and part of the reason we have so much divisiveness. I think a lot of Republicans don’t approve of everything Trump says or does but not sure if voting for the other party is the solution. I wish we had two exceptional candidates to choose from in each election. People have to make a choice based on who they think will best lead the country and roughly half disagree with the other half. I think it’s important to point out that many Republican women and minorities were elected to the house and senate in the 2020 election and that there are good people in the party. A lot of feedback I’ve gotten has been focused on Trump and his behavior but there is bad behavior in both parties. I firmly believe in civil discussion and agreeing to disagree but realize that some think it’s okay to bully or attack people who disagree with their very strong beliefs. I realize that bullying happens on both sides and is inappropriate coming from politicians and from the rest of us. That was the main point of my article. Thanks for your comments.


  5. I’m not sure what people mean when they write these sorts of columns. I am an openly gay man, and have been so for decades. If you (or anyone) think that I should go out of my way to be nice to people who want to denigrate my long sought and fought for marriage by supporting conservative politicians who can’t wait to do exactly that, you will wait a long time. I wont throw a drink in your face, or scream at you, but I will point out that you clearly don’t care two hoots about my life and welfare if you vote for and support people who would vote to return me to second class citizenship. And I will never support any candidate who would vote to limit anyone’s civil rights.


    1. And that is your right. I have also gotten feedback from gay couples who voted for Trump.. yes, really. And blacks and other minorities.. maybe they have different interpretations. Appreciate your input and respect your views. A lot of us are sort of in the middle.. I wish we had better candidates on both sides and term limits. For what it’s worth, I have a gay niece and trans niece.. And love them dearly.


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